- What is one of the main reasons for attorney depression?
- Does large law firm culture frowns upon being “too human” on the job?
- What is the relationship between lawyers and depression?
Summary: Learn what most good attorneys do that causes them to be so unhappy in this article.
Right now I am working with some attorneys who are looking for jobs for very strange reasons.
- One attorney slept in after working most of the night and was 20 minutes late for a meeting with a client.
- Another attorney discovered that they are disliked by a colleague at their 1,500+ attorney firm.
- Another got too tipsy at a party and was flirtatious with someone.
- In another case, the problem was that someone in the attorney’s firm found out too many personal details about the attorney’s life.
Basically, as these examples illustrate, many attorneys start looking for jobs simply because they are guilty of being human. Who cares if someone does not like you? Who cares if you like someone? Who cares if someone found out about your personal life at work? Who cares if you were 20 minutes late for a meeting after staying up all night?
Other lawyers care—that is who cares—and it can lead to unhappy lawyers. This article is about how one fundamental requirement of being a lawyer (not showing any vulnerability), and the way that many attorneys deal with that requirement (adopting personas of infallibility), can cause attorneys to become stressed and disconnected, which leads to attorney depression experienced by so many today.
- See 25 Reasons Most Attorneys Hate the Practice of Law and Go Crazy (and What to Do About it) for more information.
One of the major problems you will have if you are an attorney at a large law firm is that you will not be allowed to be human, or to show much weakness at all which can make lawyers unhappy. And while it is a huge problem to show any sort of weakness when you are employed somewhere, God help you if you show any weakness while you are looking for a job. Attorneys who show weakness during job searches have an incredibly hard time finding new positions, which contributes to attorney depression.
The higher up on the totem pole an attorney is in terms of the prestige of that attorney and his or her law firm, the more that attorney tends to be boring, uptight and generally unhappy. The very best attorneys are some of the most difficult people in the world to connect with. When you get to the very apex of the entire profession, attorneys become so boring, dull, uptight and straight-faced it is difficult to verbalize.