The Truth About Law Firm Life: Overcoming Attorney Burnout and Finding Alternative Careers

Defining Your Own Success in the Legal Profession

Today's webinar could be very transformative for you in terms of how you think about your career, how you think about your life, and the choices you make that allow you to actually be successful and happy, or not successful and not happy. To give you a little bit of insight, one of the things that I disliked a lot about practicing law in law firms, with the government, and also with other organizations is your happiness and what you perceive as success in the practice of law is often determined by other people's opinions of you or about what other people should be doing. You may feel that you are not successful enough because of what other people are doing, whether it is higher salaries, titles, or whatever it is. One thing to realize right at the beginning is when you start allowing others to define what success looks like for you, that can be a recipe for being happy, or it can be a recipe for being unhappy.

• As you go through your career, you are often going to be confronted by superiors, coworkers, and others that are going to define what success means to you.

• If you don't like the way that they think about you or how those opinions are shaken out, then that can be very problematical.

• Think about joining the largest law firms and others' opinions and how difficult it is going to be to advance for some people.

• Even if you do advance, what happens if the people that you are working for or working with also turn on you?

Everywhere you go, anytime you work for someone else, you are going to be confronted with a situation that says others' opinions are going to define my happiness. Some people don't necessarily dislike that too much. They like competing with other people, and they like getting assurances from other people. But other people don't like it, and it can be a constant source of stress through your entire career. I see people that have been at the same firm for twenty-five years or even founded a firm getting pushed out because other people's opinions are against them. Other people's opinions will say how much you have to work, whether or not you need to be in the office, and what type of work you should be doing, even if you don't like it. All these things, when you start being defined by other people, can be tough, and they can be things that will literally make you unhappy or insecure for your entire career.

The Instability and Pressure of Law Firm Life

I remember when I was at my second law firm, I was seeing partners losing their jobs. They might have been at the same firm for twenty years or fifteen years, and then suddenly, the management of the New York law firm decided the people in the Los Angeles office didn't have enough business. They didn't want them around. They didn't like their practice area, and these people were asked to leave their jobs. I started off on a floor with maybe ten partners and five or six associates. By the end of one year there, there were maybe four partners left. I said to myself, "This is a really scary profession." You could be very successful, do really well, and become a partner in a major US law firm, and then suddenly, far away, some people's opinions turn on you that can influence how you feel about yourself and your family. People lose their jobs, and that can be very stressful and have a hard time finding one. People end up in the wrong practice area. You need to decide for yourself how you are going to allow yourself to be defined and what happiness looks like for you.

For me, ultimately, because I was so nervous about being defined by other people, I decided that the best option for me was basically entrepreneurial, and it is what I am doing right now. For other people, that is not always the best choice for them. The majority of them can thrive in an organization. But you need to decide, regardless of the organization you work for, whether it is the government, in-house, or with a law firm, what happiness looks like for you, and how you can define yourself. In the most competitive legal environments, meaning the most competitive law firms, the most competitive in-house positions, and the larger firms, you will be under more and more scrutiny about other people's opinions. You need to have something that is interior to you, that comes from the inside, that allows you to feel good about yourself and good about the work you are doing.
 

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Dealing with Attorney Burnout and Feeling Trapped

One of the things that a lot of attorneys say to me—I would say it is 20% or 25% of attorneys that I speak with—they often wonder what the point of the work they're doing is. They get very depressed about their lives and what's going on. I hear it quite often. If I talk to 20 people in a week, I will pick this up. These are the good candidates that I am trying to speak with or coming to BCG. A lot of times I don't hear questions related to how people can make more money or how they become partners. They often are saying to some extent, "What is the point of all this? Where does this lead? I am unhappy." They might want to go in-house and see if that makes them happier, do something else, or go to another firm. A lot of people feel overworked, but another big thing is they feel trapped in their positions. They feel under financial pressure, and sometimes there is a lot of social isolation because as an attorney, you are often just working in front of a computer in an office with competitive people and not a lot of camaraderie.

• People are often afraid to leave their jobs because they have student loans, mortgages, and people to support.

• Some of the most successful attorneys that I have encountered do feel this way; they often have very strong credentials, very important jobs, and very high income.

• Inside they feel trapped, unhappy, and unsure why they are doing what they are doing.

Here are some examples of attorneys that have run into these issues recently:

• One attorney I was working with was on his third job in three years. A graduate of a top five law school, he went from a law firm to in-house after his first year of practice. Because he had gone in-house, he couldn't find a job in Washington, DC, and the only position he was able to find was at a law firm in the Midwest where he knew no one, working as a staff attorney making $55,000 a year when previously he was making over a quarter million dollars a year. He couldn't even afford his student loans and was eating macaroni and cheese to get by.

• I knew another attorney who had been working with a major US law firm working incredible hours—3,500 hours a year for the past twenty years. This person rarely came home before midnight and was trying to get a job closer to home to support her parents.

• I knew another attorney who had been a partner at two major US law firms but did not have enough business, had been trying to get a position for over a year, and wanted to give up completely. The law firm will start pushing you out if you don't have business, and it becomes very difficult to find something.

• I saw an attorney from Harvard Law School lose his job with a major law firm in New York City after about six months. Large law firms weren't interested in him because it didn't look good that he had only six months of experience. He took the first job he could get doing insurance defense, which was paying less than half of what he had been making, and now no one was hiring him.

   

Taking Agency Over Your Legal Career

A part of what I do as a recruiter is I really try to give people hope. I try to find positions for them, not just in the largest law firms, but tapping into job markets that people don't necessarily think of. For example, helping people apply to smaller firms, unknown firms, and firms that could use someone like them even if they don't have openings. People often don't have a real sense of agency over their career. They don't learn about the correct ways and things they can do in a job search to help themselves, allowing themselves to be defined based on what other people think, the legal market they are in, their practice area, and everything they are doing.

The legal profession will often teach you how to achieve something, but it doesn't always teach you how to live when you get there. People don't see options in their career, don't understand how to process things happening to them, and are not in the right environments. The environment and culture of the places you are with has so much to do with it; with the right culture, people may build you up, but with the wrong culture, it is the opposite. The system is very hard on people. You may have the greatest background and credentials imaginable, but you are still unhappy. You may not feel your job is good enough to advance, there are not enough openings in your markets, you feel limited by your law school or performance, you have people to support, and you can't do anything differently.

One of the scariest things is people get trapped doing things they don't really enjoy. People can get empowered by the work they do; if you really like something, everything about it makes you enthusiastic. If you don't like something, you don't approach it with passion. People with a sense of passion in anything legal, medical, or engineering will always do better than people who don't like what they do. If you don't like what you do, everybody picks up on that: clients, judges, opposing parties, and the people you work with. You may not have passion because you may not even like practicing law. People go to law school having no idea what this is about, and when they do get an idea, they already have student loans, feel they need to keep doing it, and don't have anything else they can do.

The Trap of Social Comparison and Luck

One of the biggest problems people have is they feel a lot of social pressure. Many attorneys are acutely aware of what they should be making and feel they should be at better firms or have better lifestyles because of others. There is a lot of social pressure and comparison that happens with attorneys in major US cities because there are so many people to compare themselves to. Probably seventy-five percent of attorneys, if they have an opportunity to work at a firm with a much better brand that pays more, will try to work in those firms. People are comparing themselves to others all the time. The tendency to do this is a recipe for not feeling good about yourself your entire life. This influences happiness and confidence because they become trapped by other people's opinions. They read about their peers on LinkedIn or read about different salaries people are making. This distracts them from their own happiness and creates pressure that they are not good enough.

Your ability to make a certain amount of money, get certain types of jobs, or advance is often luck; you could just be at the right place at the right time. It is not always based on your talent or effort; it can be based on the circumstances you are in, the firm, the business the firm has, the people you work with, and the friends you make. It can be dependent on how busy your practice area is; many people advance simply because there is an incredible amount of demand. You could be in a practice area or city where business is booming, and you are in a law firm that is doing very well there. People literally end up having incredibly successful careers often just because they were lucky enough to be in the right practice area, city, and firm.

There is a saying that the harder you work, the more lucky you are going to be. Ray Kroc says, "The more you sweat, the luckier you get." The people that work the hardest often have the most luck, and if you want that sort of luck, you need to pay the same price in terms of the amount of work you are doing. Ultimately, your social status is never going to make you completely happy. Your happiness and fulfillment need to come from inside of you and not from how others are judging you. You are never going to please everyone, so if you base your happiness on your ability to please a lot of people, you are never going to be happy.

Taking Control of Your Time and Priorities

If you do not choose where to focus your efforts, then other people will choose for you. You can either be told what to do and be given what other people want you to do, or you can do what you want to do. All sorts of people are going to be telling you what you should be doing; your superiors will tell you what you should be doing, and your employer will tell you how many hours you should be working. Anytime an attorney thinks about doing something else that would make them happier, a lot of them default to how that would look to their families, parents, or peers. They become hostages to their jobs because they are concerned about what other people will think of them. If you are dependent on others for work and unable to create your own path by getting your own business, you are going to be controlled by others.

Even partners in the largest law firms making five to ten million dollars a year are controlled by what the firm expects them to do in terms of billing rates and clients. One of my best friends retired from a major US law firm in his mid-forties; he was able to maintain control over his time and not allow others to completely dictate what happened to him. He said, "No one is ever going to tell you to stop working very hard; you have to balance your time and your hours." Having that steadiness and maintaining control over his time made him much more successful and happier.

The more business and independence you have, meaning you have self-direction and are not dependent on one person or firm for your work, the more control you have over your career and time. Control can mean different things; sometimes it means working in-house or for the government, or being a law professor. Sometimes just changing a practice setting or opening your own firm gives you control. You need to set yourself up in a way that you can control your career and your time, and look out for yourself. If you are working for someone else, it is your job to look out for yourself; their goal is to have you work as much as you can for as little pay as possible.

Every attorney needs to understand that you have choices. You do not have to work for someone else doing what they expect, work in a certain city, or work in a certain practice area. You have lots of choices about what to do with your life, and it is very inspiring when people realize they are not hostages to others. Attorneys that get better jobs don't give up, and instead of doing a very limited job search, they apply to a lot of places in different markets and different sized firms. One good environment can change the course of your career and life. You need to be accountable for how you feel, your achievements, and your ability to control how you think about yourself. There is no one else responsible for your happiness but you. You are in control of finding an environment that works, working in a practice area that works for you, whether or not you have business, and how much money you make.

Questions and Answers

Working with Legal Recruiters

Question: A recruiter sent me a job opportunity in the same state, but much further away. I saw the same job on LinkedIn. Should I go through the recruiter or apply for the job independently?

You should check whether or not the recruiter applied you to the firm. If the recruiter has already applied to the job, then you should allow that to proceed. Law firms like recruiters because the cost is very little compared to how much money you will be generating for the firm. Recruiters present you in a way that minimizes weaknesses and brings out strengths, do follow-up, solicit feedback, and prepare you for interviews. If you do not have a relationship with a recruiter and you have never spoken to them, then you should apply independently. But the rule in the industry is that if someone makes you aware of an opportunity that you are not currently aware of, it can benefit you to use the recruiter.

Handling Vague Instructions from Partners

Question: What should I do when a law firm partner gives me vague or conflicting instructions on an assignment?

When you are a young attorney, you typically don't understand what the partner is seeking. One of the smartest things you can do is ask another attorney, like a mid-level associate, what the assignment means. Sometimes if the assignment is very vague, you can ask AI what it thinks the person is looking for, and it will tell you what type of research you should be doing. It is best to ask the partner any follow-up questions when you get the assignment, but partners will often be very annoyed. That is why I recommend asking other attorneys and even AI to figure it out.

Studying for the Bar Exam

Question: How early should law students start studying for the bar exam to pass on the first try?

You should start studying for the bar exam after you graduate, not during school. The second you get out of school, you should be working as hard as you can, studying and doing everything you can. During school, your objective is to get the best grades possible and to learn. Learning how to write law school exams better translates into the writing style you need to pass the bar exam.

Recovering from Career Setbacks

Question: For people like the Harvard Law graduate who accidentally got into insurance defense after being let go by big law, what strategies do you have for them to lateral to more sophisticated practice areas?

Most people will do what everyone else is doing, applying to the same firms and jobs. This person was a commercial litigation associate; they could have researched all the commercial litigation boutiques in New York City and applied to at least a hundred of them. You typically don't need to apply to positions in just one market; they could have applied to firms on Long Island, Brooklyn, or other parts of the state. Anytime you open up a lot of markets, you are going to do very well. This person had no reason to be working in insurance defense; they were in control of what happened to them, but they didn't market themselves enough and resigned to the fact that they were going to take what they could get instead of doing a very aggressive search. You never have to be trapped thinking you have to be in insurance defense because that is all you can get; you need to take agency over your career.

Staying Professional with Difficult People

Question: How can legal professionals handle difficult attorneys, clients, or coworkers while staying professional?

You are always going to be running into people that are difficult to work with in your own firm, on the other side of transactions, clients, and coworkers. Staying professional is one of the most important things you can possibly do in your career. This means not getting angry with people and keeping your calm. When you keep your calm and do not get angry in response, people will often come back and apologize or feel badly about their behavior. Your job is to be an advocate for your client, so you often do need to fight back, but not losing your cool is really important. Losing your cool is really a sign of weakness; you have to never lose your cool and not allow others to intimidate you.

Using Informational Interviews

Question: How can I use informational interviews to get law firm job leads before positions are publicly posted?

Anytime you are asking for an informational interview, it is better to do it in person. You have to have a reason for talking to someone, such as going to the same law school and wanting to ask about the legal market. Informational interviews are really job interviews because people are always aware you are trying to get a position with them. You need to go into interviews, do a really good job, show enthusiasm, and do a very good job of selling yourself. Lots of people get hired informally; law firms will make room for someone if they like them in interviews, and you are not competing with others for the same job.

BigLaw Financial Security vs. Burnout Risk

Question: As a law student, how can I tell whether the financial security of working at a large law firm is worth the risk of burnout and losing work-life balance later in my career?

As a law student, it is always a good idea to take a position inside a large law firm if you can get it because it gives you a start at the top of the legal profession. You are working with very smart people who shape how you think about legal problems. The risk of burnout and losing work-life balance is certainly there. In general, people that burn out are working in large law firms that they don't like or in a practice area they don't like. If that life doesn't work for you, you can always move; it is much easier to move from a large law firm to a mid-market law firm. You can always get out of it later, but you are going to learn a lot and become a better attorney.

Origination Credit and Compensation

Question: How does origination credit affect attorney compensation or law firm?

Law firms will compensate you for the amount of work that you bring in and that the firm collects. If you bring in a hundred thousand dollars in work, the law firm will often compensate you an extra ten percent over your existing compensation. Law firms have different models; some do not give origination credit, while others literally eat what you kill, where you get a percentage like fifty percent of all the work you do. Origination credit is lower at the largest law firms with the biggest overhead than it is at smaller law firms.

Independent Consulting Roles

Question: What are some recommendations that you have for anybody considering going into an independent consulting role?

Independent consulting roles are very dangerous because it is a limited time position. You have no one committed to paying you on a long-term basis, no agency over your career, and consultants often have long-term periods of unemployment where they are not having enough work. If you want to be a consultant, you should think in terms of having your own business with your own clients. It is risky because you are essentially running your own practice, but not with long-term clients.

Evaluating Multiple Job Offers

Question: I'm the sole corporate attorney in the satellite office of a big law firm, which is making me miserable. I've got two offers, and a third one just appeared where the timing works better for me to spend the summer with my family. The pay is lower. Opportunity two is more interesting and potentially more pay, but I would need to jump in right away. Thoughts?

It sounds nice to spend the summer with your child, but if you take time away from work, you don't know what could happen to that company in the interim. Someone better may come along, or they may make budget changes. Typically, when you get a job, you are better off starting more quickly. If opportunity two is more interesting and making more pay, maybe that is the better idea. I would use long-term happiness in the role as the ultimate calculus over something immediate like taking time off. You have to ask yourself what has the most stability and where the job is going to be around for the longest period of time. Just getting a job in-house isn't always the safest choice; the safest choice is finding a position that looks stable.

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