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When Facing Setbacks, Do You Get Mad or Sad and What It Means
[00:00:00] I'm a law student who struck out last year, despite around four call backs from on campus interviews, which is very good.
It's very good.
I didn't get an offer. I ultimately did watch your webinars and read your articles and managed to get an offer from the firm I spent my summer at.
Great.
I'll be returning there after law school. However, to come in from a top 10 law school, I feel I underperformed and still feel negetively about this whole process. How can I bounce back and fix this?
By the way, everything, when you guys write, you should always whether or not you're doing emails or whatever, getting the reputation for having very well proof-read stuff is awesome. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but granted software like that Grammarly or whatever pro writing aid stuff can be very helpful.
Okay. How can I bounce back and fixed what went wrong? And will I still be able to get more interviews in the future to larger firms or just work at a smaller firm a black mark?
Okay. This is a very common question. Common questions about people and every week, someone asks you a question like this. I don't mean that your situation is not important. It's just a very common question. So, people, a lot of times from very good law schools will be under the impression that the law school is [00:01:00] on the menu, that this is all they need. That the law school shows they are smart, are going to get into a good school. Unfortunately, all the things I talked about today about interviewing are really what people are looking for. So, nothing is more common than someone that's unable to get jobs because of bad interviewing skills, whether they're from a good firm or a bad firm.
The ability to sell yourself is very important. So, one thing I would say is, if you could dig into a top 10 law school, you just need to learn, we'll rewatch the webinar from today, but also learn about the things that you may have done wrong and you can definitely get interviews in larger firms.
I know lots of people that went to top 10 law schools. Had all sorts of things happen to them. As a matter of fact, one of the most successful attorneys that I know that's a partner. A Well-known partner, nationally, went to a top five law school. Didn't get an offer at a very good firm, national firm. Another top national firm after his second summer then came out, failed the bar, once or twice. I don't remember it was in California, and then [00:02:00] eventually, got an offer with a small firm. And then from there just kept improving and moving up to bigger and bigger firms.
And, now with a well-known partner at, one of the largest, most prestigious firms in the world. So, it doesn't matter what happens to you at the start of your career, what matters is what you learned from it and everything is a race. A race means, some people start out at the head of the pack and other people don't start out the head of the pack.
And, if you don't start out with the head of the pack, there's nothing wrong with that. You can start the race of the head of the path, or you can start at the bottom of the back of the pack and catch up. The thing is everything's a, so I'd like to give this analogy some people start the race, but what happens is people, drop out of the same race. It doesn't matter where you start the race. If you start a little bit behind you just learn your lessons. I was working once with a very well talking to, I don't know if it's working with him or, but talking to a very famous public relations guy.
And, I think he was representing who was he working for at the time? I don't know if someone who's no longer alive, a very [00:03:00] famous conservative radio talk show hosts to forget, Rush Limbaugh,. Maybe he's looking for Rush Limbaugh and all these other people. And his daughter went to the same school as mine.
So anyway, he was saying to me that what happens when people experience setbacks two things can happen.
One is some people get mad and some people get sad.
If you think about this, what is the best thing for you? I'm getting sad. It's just, suppressed, which means nothing happens.
Getting mad if means competitiveness and all these kinds of angers, competitive, resentful of all these kind of negative emotions can be, channeled to rocket fuel, meaning you could channel all that disappointment into fuel to drive.
Another one of my mentors, and I think there's an article about if you search like rocket fuel or something, and my name, like I wrote an article about it, but this whole idea of channeling bad things that happened to you in a rocket fuel, learn what you did wrong, fix everything, just keep working on it, write down what you're going to need to do to improve is going to help you.
That's what I would recommend.
