It is bound to happen: whenever two people are in a marriage, conflict will necessarily arise. What is the difference between normal conflict and conflict that leads to divorce? Each couple can withstand different amounts of conflict. It is safe to say that when the situation becomes so painful, so frequent, and so toxic that either party just can't see the marriage continuing, then that marriage is in crisis. When all your best efforts have been exhausted, it is time to find the attorney who is right for you.